Ever get into a relationship and the person is just perfect. They call you every morning they check on you every day, and they sent you good night text or call at night. You become in awe of this person. It’s almost as if you guys have a routine, it becomes yeah A routine and just short of a habit. It’s Consistency.
I myself, thrive off of consistency and I Gain a great deal of satisfaction from communication. Which goes hand-in-hand with my old need for control. When I’m in control it’s a routine pattern I know it’s going on there are no dark areas of me wondering what’s going to happen next. What did happen and what went wrong. That’s something I just learned about myself recently the need for control. Not even so much the control of I get to see what you’re doing, I’m a tell you the next move, I’m dictating everything. I just need to know what’s going on, what’s the plan.
Yes I can be spontaneous, jump up and go, pick a random day to do something random, that’s me too which is crazy and yet confusing to understand, but for my day-to-day life (if you know me you know I carry at least three planners and own a million, I write everything down and just about forget everything)
When I’m in a relationship I need consistency. If I can’t get that I need some communication. When you have consistency it shows you are a reliable person, someone that can be trusted not through lies, but through repeated action. It shows that you understand the importance of who you are and your part in a relationship. Showing me NO FEMALE I KNOW WANTS A UNRELIABLE DUDE. If you call me every day when you’re off work and that happens to be 515 every day, and one day you don’t call me at 5:15 and I call you at 5:45 and it may seem like with an attitude if I call and you answer and it’s not a work background
It’s NOT BECAUSE IM TRIPPEN, ITS BECAUSE THIS IS OUT IF THE NORM FOR YOU. IM CONCERNED ABOUT YOUR WELL BEING BECAUSE NORMALLY YOU WOULD HAVE CALLED. (This is some shit that has happened in my last relationship and they swore my attitude was because they weren’t home) NO MY ATTITUDE LIES IN YOUR INABILITY TO BEING A CONSISTENT HUMAN BEING OR EVEN A CONSIDERATE PERSON.
Not to come off as a sexist but men, or majority of them are inconsistent. Like a guy will literally tell you everything you want or they believe you want to hear. Depending on my level of boredness depends if I’m entertaining it or not. (THAT SAME BORDNESS IS WHAT GET ME ON THE LEVEL OF THESE OTHER WOMEN THAT FALL FOR IT OR AT THE LEVEL OF THESE WE ALL GOT THE SAME GAME PLAN JUST A DIFFERENT COACH DUDES)
Sometimes there consistency in bullshit is so consistent I believe some of it. Until what ever the game plan was for you to send a picture (I hate when someone asks me this, more than likely I’m called petty because I refer to the social networks they are my friend on. Go look there and then I don’t have to know the creep or “admirer” your being) they get the picture, or finally, chill with you, get that cookie or whatever, personal gain then here comes their act of speed.
They go from a consistent text all day, call in between, a voicemail why u ain’t answer, to a I lost my phone, I had to go out to such and such, my schedule changed, my best friend needed me. I’m the biggest believer in if it’s important you make time or a way to get or do what’s important.
Don’t put up with it, if in the long run, it’s gonna be a problem. If they start off with the lies and inconsistency that’s how they will finish. If they start with consistency and fall into inconsistency like that couldn’t have been them before DONT WASTE YOUR TIME. Don’t allow yourself to be the call of what are you doing? When it’s 10 pm. If you didn’t cross their mind all day, you’re not special that all of a sudden your the last one they think of. Turn what they think about to be a sweet dream into a beautiful nightmare. Don’t play the game with them because they are more experienced your ass gone lose. I’m speaking from experience. I’ll save that for another day.
Women work off emotions. clearly, men don’t or they would have been more caring to the fact that it’s 10 pm. You are treated how you allow someone to treat you.
BE CONSISTENT IN WHAT YOU DO OR COMMUNICATE THE SUDDEN CHANGE.